My ex-fiance just called me crying hysterically. I couldn't help but laugh.

She went to the court house to respond to the subpoena she was served with at the end of December. She had 20 days to respond to it, it's been about 24 days since she was served. So, now she's in default. They told her she had to pay $212 or I could be given full custody of my son. She can't pay it.

Basically, the ball is in my court now...they are going to give me whatever I ask for - she has no say in it anymore. I could be an (insert profanity here) and say I want full custody, but I'm not going to. I'm gonna be the bigger person and request what I set out for: Equal Rights. I want what is best for my son, not what's best for me or her. He needs both his parents in his life whether we are together or not.

I love my son more than anything in the world. If it wasn't for him, I would have gave up this fight to PCS months ago.

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Mark,

I'm going to see how the next week plays out at my mom's before I make the decision to move out. I have to admit, it's a lot quieter without her and both the kids here.

My younger siblings go to school during the week, so the mornings up until about 2pm are pretty quiet. My sister that has the baby is here, but she keeps to herself and doesn't usually bother me. My mom works full time during the week and goes straight to school after work. Only time it's REALLY chaotic here is on the weekend.

Your right, she can't make it without me. She's going to be bouncing around from place to place, friend to friend in downtown LV. She has no income as far as cash (only food stamps) and will be relying on her mom (who is transient and doesn't have a job) to find her and her son a place to sleep at night. No back bone whatsoever.

No disability income, just Unemployment while I await the approval from SSI.

I have about $25,000 left on the Victims of Crime fund. Since I'm done with the rather expensive things (CT/MRI's, etc.) that should last me awhile.

I'm working on my plan. Just have to get this custody thing out of the way, get approved for SSI and make some improvements in my recovery before I can move forward. I've never been the type to just sit around while everything crumbles around me.

As always, you've provided a lot of good help and incite on everything I've ever posted about. ...Thank you ...
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bh_pcs,

My mother was just telling me exactly what you said last night. Also, I've never hurt my son, nor have any domestic violence cases against me. The police have never been called on me for anything. She has nothing on me.

Things are actually moving pretty fast. ERDF (Equal Rights for Divorced Fathers) told me to come in and sign some paperwork...and they'll get me a court date within 3-5 days. They are great...they made everything so easy for me. I'll be sure to PM you if I need any help...Thanks!...
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ginnie,

If I would have never found this forum, I probably would have lost my mind by now.

I've gotten more support and information from people here than I have anyone in my life right now. Doctors, family members, friends...none of them understand what I'm going through or have the right words to say like the people here. Thanks!!!!!
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