I want to Welcome you to Neuro Talk. This site has alot of forums to deal with depression, and medical issues. There will be people to talk to and a lot of compassion. I understand the issue, of being not being well medically, but having someone in your life who wants to marry you. You are afraid of having kids, because you have trouble on your own. Then you mentioned the question in your mind, "what if I get worse?" and wind up in a wheelchair.? These issues are indeed ones that must be adressed before you will feel comfortable. Just the issues of having children is difficult, even without medical conditions. I guess if it were me, I would seek not only more conversation with the one you love honestly, but maybe intervention with a therapist who can help you both with these issues. Before you marry is the time to really figure out, some of the "what if's" and issues about your future together. Marriage under the best of circumstances can be challange. When medical issues are there in the beginning, all of it should be really talked about. You have some legitimate concerns. If all this can be talked out, where you both feel really good about it, then that would be the time to say your vows. Let a professional give advice if you can. I hope others here will also talk to you, offer other ideas and suggestions. I will be here too. You should feel very good that you are taking into consideration all the things that have cropped up in your mind. Your thoughtfulness with your choices can only help. You arn't going blindly into a situation, but thinking about it carefully. I do wish you all the best, and I hope you make a few new friends on Neruo talk too. ginnie