We had therapy on Tuesday night and when we walked out hubby turned to me and said “Thank you for finding Lee, I feel so much better after talking to her. I really appreciate you doing the work to get us the right therapist.” WOW. That is really big. What’s even bigger is that when we where getting into the car he said, grinning “I guess I’ll have to do something abusive now that I said something nice to you.” Jokingly of course, but that is his method of beginning to deal with matters that are difficult. The reality that he even brought up that he has been abusive is amazing. I really feel good with this therapist. We worked more on grief stages. And she really, really called Husband on his issues - and he did not get defensive!!! She did a lot of validating me, which I don’t get anymore. It’s been so refreshing I have noticed I am tons less tense and frustrated through the day, nor as irritated at the kids so quick. I am still in just as much physical pain so I need to get back in with the pain specialist, but am really pleased to note the emotional quagmire is beginning to thin.

I wanted to add that we did get the stages of grief book by Dr. Ross and I am beginning to read it - thanks!

I really want to thank all of you had the patience and caring to stick with me and care. I am sure some people are not as patient with me as others, but to all of you - THANK YOU!