Welcome to the forum.
It's awesome that your wife can help you to calm down so the symptoms do not get worse.
Have you learned any relaxation techniques that you can do when she's not around that might be able to help you?
Have you noticed what activities or things might be triggering your symptoms?
A lot of us here avoid overstimulation because it can trigger symptoms for us - like watching too much TV, or watching a suspense movie or something like that. (I have found HGTV mind-numbingly relaxing.)
Most of us also avoid caffeine and alcohol because they can make us worse too.
Your body or brain might just be trying to heal and needs some time. Try to rest, relax and take it easy so your cells can work towards recovering.