Hi Bonnee,
So sorry about the loss of your son.

I'm thinking your symptoms are more related to age & how long you have been doing computer/desk work.

I have some questions about your pain /symptoms.
Have you had any hand or arm pain at all? upper back pain?
How is your posture overall?
any previous car accidents/whiplash?

you might want to visit the thoracic outlet forum also as well as the spinal forums.
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forumdisplay.php?f=24
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forumdisplay.php?f=22
We do have a forum for Grief and Loss
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forumdisplay.php?f=51