well OK Being Male I will join...
My wife and I have enjoyed a healthy sex life up until about two years ago. I have always had some lower back pain but ignored it as just work related. well, having sex just got to be too much work. I have absolutely no problem with ED, but just could never cross the finish line. My wife blamed herself as I could not tell her what was wrong...I did not know!

recently I had several spinal MRI's that showed extreme problems. My cervical was just fused 8 weeks ago, and my lumbar which is causing all my "problems" is next. I have a lumbar spine that is in desperate need of repair, causing alot of nerve damage from my waist down. Doctor said it's amazing I don't have a ED problem. this sure does put a strain on the marraige though.