Hi Cass

I totally understand your frustration, but don't forget - men are wired to 'fix' things. Women 'talk', men 'do'.

If they can't fix it, then they feel useless and that may explain why he wants to do everything for you - because he feels powerless in this situation (as we all are - this is unpredictable and beyond our control).

Try writing him a letter, or getting someone you trust to talk to him. I really feel that a lot of the time partners and families are the biggest victims in this whole annnie journey. We have the power to take action, fight this, and hang on, but they just have to sit and watch it all go on around them. Often times, their world will spin out of control if something happens to us.

So, be patient, loving and kind. He is going through a massive ordeal too.

Go softly, but never give up your right to love, respect and understanding. You are right, his daughter's problems can't be yours right now - you have enough of your own.

Lyn