Some people just do not know what to say. Those are the ones that probably should be quiet. I am 60 female, and have no hair. I don't wear a wig, but a dew rag, cotton comfortable, and biker looking. People have asked me why I want to look like that. Did they think I didn't want hair? Have they ever tried wearing a wig in 95 degree weather? I sure have heard this kind of hurtful stuff too. God does not bring these illnesses upon us. I have also been told I must have sinned alot to have my problems, like I am being punished. I am sorry you have had to hear things that hurt too. Just remember we here at NT will always be kind and caring to you, and will try never to hurt your feelings. Lots and lots of good folks here. I have a good responce to some of that negative kind of talk, say nothing, and maybe they will figure it out for themselves. I care about you nwsmith. ginnie