I had my surgery 2 months ago and have had some not so pretty complications and im looking at having them do the surgery over again in a few weeks. I feel the exact same way as Pam regarding feeling guilty and helpless to helping out financially with the household. I feel like I should be back at work already and every day that passes I feel more and more guilty about not physically being able to help out. To be honest, it's nice to know that other people feel the same way - even though it's not a nice feeling.