In the spiritual support forum, Eva responds there fairly often. She has had the surgery your wife faces and is home recovering. I wish I knew the skill on this site to get your post to her. I still have alot to learn here, and I have never been that good on the PC. If you can't find the thread, ask MrsD She is a moderator, or Kitty, or even private message to Eva. Eva is a blessing to this forum and is one strong lady. Sorry I could not get you there myself. I never learned yet to transfer these posts. I don't think Eva would mind you posting to her on PM. Let me know if you have gotten in touch with this good woman. She has offered alot of us emotional support. I am also here just as another member to try and help. ginnie