Eva, I was directed to you thread.

My wife is about to have a double mastectomy and reconstruction. We've been talking along about how she feels and I keep trying to pull that out of her. I can't know how she feels but I can can be aware.

We did have a break. I'll get a spinal cord implant about a month before her surgery and will be better able to take care of her (I hope).

I understand I am dealing not only with the pain of surgery but the fear of permanent change, self image issues, and other emotions. I hope you keep blogging and let me be a bit of a fan. Maybe it will help me support my wife (and you perhaps)?

Pamela is 53. She is very nervous and confesses a lot of fear. She has already had surgeries for other things so we will not worry about 'cutting' other places in her body to harvest for reconstruction. She was on the fence about this but I got a close friend of hers to help me talk her out of that. Still I made sure she was comfortable with that. Well, as comfortable as she could be.