crystal,

As Nick (nwsmith1984) said, yes stress can mess up your day and likely the next few days.

I have had bad days after a simple conversation that lasted too long.

Just remember, your son is a guest in your space. Every bit of space he has is due to the generosity and support of you and your husband.

As in the Cosby Show, when Theo was hitting up Dr Huxstable for money for his selfish desires and said "But Dad, we are rich." Dr Huxstable responded, "Your mother and I are rich, You, Theo are poor."

Don't expect to be able to change your son. That ship has sailed. Now, your goal is to survive until your son is old enough to move out. He no longer wants a mother. Try to learn to just observe and contain his mess to his room.

What would he say if you asked him for a joint so you could settle your nerves? It would be an interesting question, hypothetically.

Try to not stress over those things that you can not change. I know it is hard.

My best to you.