I was thinking about what advice I would give someone who said to me, "My loved one has a chronic illness...any advice?"

I thought of a couple things so far:

1. Yes, tell me that I can call you anytime if I need something in town because you go three times a week...but ALSO give me a buzz once in a while and say "Need anything at Price Chopper? I'm going right by your house." Even though I know you're sincere about "anytime", I still hate to call and ask.

2. I know you're confused when I say "Don't keep inviting me when you know I can't go" and then I say "Why don't you invite me anymore?" I'm confused, too! A good approach is "Just wanted to let you know you're welcome to come if you're having a good day, but we'll understand if you decline or even cancel at the last minute."