Alice,
Your comments reminded me of what a speaker said talking about attention deficit: that the worst thing kids with ADD could do was to get it all together for something that was really important to them, then everyone would say, "See what you can do if you try." So many have so little conception of how many steps literally and figuratively have to be overcome to reach success with ADD or MG. People do their homework or get dressed in one step: someone with ADD has to hear and write down the correct assignment, get the right books, get them on the bus, get them off the bus, remember to actually do the assignment, put it with the books to go back to school, get them on the bus, get them off the bus, get it to the desk and hand it in, every single step fraught with peril and do it day after day. Everyone here knows how many steps you must overcome to get dressed in the morning when MG is acting up, well described by the person who wrote about the spoon theory. The point being, sometimes we have to be content or even pleased with success that is not recognized, while we keep trying to get it all together. It is gratifying if we have someone else who recognizes our triumphs, but if we can't count on ourselves, we can't really expect it of others. :-) nc