I sure understand your frustration. The debt thing alone is enough to send a person into panic mode. I face loosing my home as well. So I do know what some of the financial problems can be like. You have more on your plate than you should. I wonder if you could talk to someone just for yourself. sometimes there are womens centers located in towns. They can give council without charge in many cases. I wish your husband would be in a better frame of mind for you. It is hard to be around someone who is raging at the world. He can't cope and that is why he is acting out. I have had a few fits myself, and it usually is over finances on top of health issues. I did get help however, and talk to a psych often. I know this has helped me cope better than I did. I also come back here as often as I can to get good support from those on line. I wish there was something I could say to ease your way. It does help to vent. tap back at me anytime and I will listen. ginnie