Thanks Bizi and Ginnie
I have decided to end the friendship.
It will hurt less than the unanswered texts and messages and her excuses. The hoping and waiting is the worst. I rarely get into arguments. I won't tell her to F* off, but I will tell her that I love her, but it seems like she's already checked out of our friendship, how that makes me feel, and tell her to feel free to contact me when she's in a place where she can accept me as I am.
I'm concerned about isolation, but our friendship isn't helping with that anyway. I do have friends, but they're heavy drinkers and I'm not (unless I'm manic). No phone conversations, and the only contact centers around drinking. I like to avoid the pressure, and drunk people are especially unappealing when you're sober.
My husband brought home beer today. He drank them all, but at least it was only a 12 pack.
Kay