It's your grief! Claim it. Experience it. Surrender to your grief. And don't let anyone take away your right to it.

Death makes people uncomfortable. They fear it. They understand why you are bereaved, but they have unrealistic expectations as to how you should grieve, and for how long. Why? Underneath, they are uncomfortable with your grief and want it to go away as soon as possible. That's why they attempt to comfort you and give you advice and encourage you to "get over it" and "get on with your life" as soon as possible.

Their discomfort and awkwardness with your situation can lead to some pretty severe "foot-in-mouth" disease.

Hugs for the room.