You both gave me such good things to think about.

Ginnie, I try to use my time in positive ways and surround myself with positive energy. She does not promote either of these goals. I know I need to divest myself of her but I would not be able to forgive myself if she does something stupid. I know I am not responsible for her but I don't need to push her over the edge either.

Blue, I though she was delusional too until I talked to her brother and SIL. She is telling them different stories about a different man. She is telling me how terrible her job is and how much she can't stand the woman she works with and telling her bother and his wife that her job is great and she loves her coworker. So it appears that she does not believe things are real. She just seems to have a need to lie. Her SIL called her a very sick girl. She is right.