First of all Judy hugs for all your dealing with...you're a brave soul & smart to come here to ask around.
I'm not a wheelie. But my neighbor came home a few years ago with terminal cancer. She was in rehab for a bit and they gave her sheets around her legs to lift them. It helped her so much!!
I wonder if you can get some OT to come up with some type of device like that?
Keep us up to date hon...