Do you have anyone to speak for you/advocate for you? In my case, I wouldn't have been able to discuss my case with a lawyer or really anything but for my wife, who is my caregiver and advocate. It is helpful for someone to stand up for you and make the calls. If anyone in your family can take on this role, you will get more done. I feel like you are getting shafted and the system is going to run you over, and you need a new attorney from what you've described. But most importantly, you need an ally!