Sexual dysfunction in men and women is very real. The problem is that TV is filled with cute commercials advertising the reality of men's issues (and the solution in one tidy 30 second segment). While women's sexual dysfunction is diverse (SSRI is a definite cause: it happened to a friend of mine and I've seen the research and warnings every time I pick up prescriptions), vaginismus (involuntary clamping), and several others from menopausal-related to abuse-related, cysts, endometrisis etc etc: all lead to sexual intercourse that is difficult to impossible.

I used to have the sex drive of champions. Then, I acquired a neurological pain condition, went on a multitude of meds, received dozens of surgical treatments and my partner became very 'emotional' about my lack of sex drive, leading to guilt trips, demands, threats and ultimatums. Now I have vaginismus and the pain during intercourse is so excruciating that I don't breathe, tears fall constantly, and I try and try to put my mind somewhere else. Yes, just like during sexual assault. This of course is assumed by him to be my fault and he has refused to read the literature or book off work to see the specialist with me.

So, what your bf needs to understand is that fsd is real, it's varied (just like women) and it will be exacerbated by an uneducated/unsympathetic partner, ultimately resulting in breakup.

Intercourse is not the only kind of sex. It's not the best kind: take a month long break from it and do anything else when you feel like it.