Update: she is much angrier nowadays...and so suspicious!! my FIL says that if she'd acted this way when they were first married they wouldn't have lasted 5 years. He says he can't say boo around her.
She is hypercritical of everyone and everything...and stubborn to boot. She ended up in the hospital with a possible heart attack, and was refusing to take her meds, ripped her gown off, and refused to go for tests. They sent her home...she is weak but at least more relaxed and less angry...
what a horrible disease