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Originally Posted by Doody
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Did I tell you about my best friend...of 46 years? She has Borderline Personality Disorder. Her craziness is what attracted me in our teen years, I suppose. We became the best of friends. But in the past decade there were so many issues with her that dragged me down...down...down...and down! And then, just a couple of years ago, something happened with her that was too insulting for me to deal with. Especially in the depressive state I struggle with from day to day.
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Oh my goodness... the things I learn here! Doody, I have recently chosen to make myself scarce from a long-time friendship. I knew it was coming but kept allowing her to pull me down with her toxicity... it was brutal - so much that I didn't enjoy going to sing anymore! I drove to rehearsal with her and started making every excuse to drive on my own - even when I could hardly afford the gas!! My healthy energies were spent trying to help her see the glass half full rather than empty. So draining... sigh... but... we can only live for ourselves... we can only change ourselves... so I made a choice... and wow, what a difference it has made to me! Hold onto your happy memories of your friendship (((Doody)))... that's what I do... we still talk but I often don't answer the phone or call her up as I used to. Weaned her slowly
Good luck to you with your choices, ((((((mbrook))))). You will look back at all of this, one day, and know it has been one of life's great lessons. Your friend is very ill and I wish her well.
xo Addy