This just breaks my heart. He "gets nothing in return"?? Did he specify exactly what he is expecting "in return"? I sincerely hope you two will be able to work through this, and he can be more patient and understanding of you and your PCS. Sounds like he was trying hard but reached a breaking point. If only it could ever be that simple for anyone -- just "get on with life". *sigh* life does go on, but the world as we knew it is gone and it will never come back. Do you have a doctor, or psych, or counselor of some kind to talk to? If not, it sounds like you need maybe a family counselor, ask your doctor or case manager to help find one to help you two figure out your new post-TBI roles. I pray he'll be open to this, for the sake of his (your) whole family. Best Wishes to you all.
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Originally Posted by leebeemi
Sigh. So, I've been healing well the last few weeks, feeling more myself, thanking my lucky stars for a supportive family, starting to get back into my "old" life. And...BAM!
My previously supportive husband confesses in a yelling tirade that he's sick & tired of "carrying all the weight" and that I should just get on with life. He resents having to do extra & care for me when he "gets nothing in return." Now, the particular day thiks happened, I was congratulating myself of 5 solid days of keeping up with housework, laundry, and cooking actual meals for the family. I hadn't forgotten an appointment or scheduled item for over a week or missed a day of work in 2 weeks, either.
I felt awful, and spent the next few days in a funk, but worked out of it and started again. But, I over extended myself at some point, and crashed to a point I haven't felt in over a month. Brain fog, anxiety, insomnia, etc. I haven't changed my sleep habits or meds, and have continued to see my doctor.
I know this is temporary, I know it's not unusual (given my condition!), and I know it will get better. But I'm just wrecked. Usually, I'd count on my husband to help me through, but I'm obviously not comfortable there. So, I just thought I'd spew out my troubles to an understanding community. Thanks.  |