Brenda, the day I wrote that reply was my son's 25th Birthday. He's actually doing very well these days all things considered. The teenage years were very difficult however. It didn't help that he was not correctly diagnosed on autism spectrum until he was 13. He had other health challenges as a young child and some misdiagnoses as well, so it was difficult for him esp. in the school setting where he did very well academically but not socially. His peers didn't treat him very well. My son's birthday also happens to be the anniversary of my marriage many years ago. A marriage which ended 14 years ago. To this very day my ex-husband plays the blame game. Just wanted to explain a little more.

You're right, I wish there was more help available for families. 20 - 25 years ago here there was nothing.

I wish your family all the best. It's wonderful that your daughter in law has you as you sound a very loving, caring person. She'll need your understanding.

thankyou.