I just recently joined this forum, and I've gone through much of the same thing with doctors saying those things. I'm 21 now, but have been in and out of hospitals since I was 9 when I was diagnosed with epilepsy, I know how frustrating is can get to have the people that are supposed to be able to help you turn to you and say "I can't help you." I really hope you can find something here or elsewhere to help your husband, I can't imagine how miserable he must get. =( I wish you and him the best, and you'll be in my prayers.