One thing that helped me -- and goodness knows, I wondered how in the world it might possibly do so -- was when people close to me contacted Adult Protective Services. It wasn't for suspected abuse or negligence but to get help and support for me as a care-giver. Within a day, a Social Worker arrived and, also, within a week's time, a nurse. Overall, the services have been a Godsend, offering advice, support and facilitating additional resources available.

Another thought is: When at a doctor's office perhaps inquire about upcoming conferences or meetings that offer scholarships for respite care. It can help you get a bit of a break and some time to breathe while also having an in-person support network.