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Originally Posted by waves
Dear Bobby
That poor dog! It was good of you to send a donation. 
Sorry you are in this rut. I agree with Bizi... try to get out to the center, or to a neighbor's.
I know how it feels not to like oneself. You are very critical as I am. Might it help to think in terms of "things you like" and "things you dislike" about yourself, rather than putting your entire self in the dislike pot?
Would you try this? Get a piece of paper and pen/pencil. Divide it into two columns - "LIKE" and "DISKLIKE." Every time you feel you dislike yourself, ask yourself the specific reason and write that in the dislike column. Then, sit and and think. Find something you like about yourself, and write that next to it, in the like column.
If you are having trouble thinking of things to LIKE about Bobby, I can start you off  - you are kind
- you love animals
- you are honest
- you are loyal
- ...
It is better though, to actually go through the process of digging in your own brain for things you appreciate in yourself. When you are ready, you can always up the ante on this exercise, and for each dislike, find two things you like. (Don't worry, there are plenty.) Then when you need a bit of a pick me up..........
Read your LIKE column (and only that column)! 
love
~ waves ~ who didn't really mean to make work for you...  just an idea...
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thanks for starting me off. before you started me off I couldnt think of anything. boy when i am down i am really down. I will try to make a list later this morning.....i feel all the things i dislike will be easier to write down. i am a real disappointment to myself. i wrote it. i don't know how you are supposed to be at going on 68. a couple of friends my age are very active physically. i definitely am the opposite although up until eleven years ago i was very active. then i imploded. i feel so lazy. my biggest activity is petting the kitty cats and typing. then ice cream was on sale and i bought two pints.
i have been so good about ice cream. i have resisted. this time i bought black raspberry and kofti with pistachio and cardamon....that one i had last night and it was really really good but not worth gaining weight. I seemed to like myself better when i was on a diet and losing weight. i felt as if i was accomplishing something. now i am stuck with the idea of eating chicken again since my doctor who has a specialty in endrocrinolog(sp) said i should eat black beans and lentils in moderation and that he felt oatmeal had too many carbohydrates. here I was eating steel cut oatmeals thinking i was doing myself a favor. I guess i must be very feeling very angry and at the same time feeling very ungrateful. last night i didn't take my medicine on purpose. I am not sure what that was about. i will take it as soon as i stop posting and reading the other posts. it is easy to take the medicine because they are on a chinese bench at the head of the futon.
i am very angry. i am very frustrated. i am taking too much for granted. I am really asking for it.
love you
bobby