((((((Nikko)))))),



Please, don't give up your trip

Let me ask you something. Every time you try to get some 'expert' to intervene, they keep sending her back and saying that she doesn't need help -- right?? She hasn't been declared incompetent -- right?? You haven't been declared her "legal caretaker" either -- right??

There's nothing legally that says that you have to stay with her. Nothing that says that she is not capable of being on her own for 24-48 hours -- right??

Nobody's gonna find you guilty of parental abuse or abandonment if you go away for 1-2 days.

Nikko, you know that she cannot drink -- AT ALL. That means no booze in the house -- unless it's locked up. If I had liquor in the house for a party, I would pour it all down the sink as soon as the party was over -- either that or lock it up in a small safe or a closet or something.

She's gonna keep playing with your head until she drives you nuts.

You take real good care of her -- better than what she'd get in a nursing home.

You have a right to a *LIFE*. You'd think that she would want that for you.

The only one that's preventing you two from having a nice life together is HER. I can visualize a life where you two: have nice, pleasant conversations, go out to lunch once in awhile, go to the hair dresser, or maybe to a movie. You know -- NICE being together. Apparently, she, for some reason doesn't have (or cannot get) that picture in her head.

I know I'm not in your life or in her head or in your head. All I can go by is what you write here. *I* want more for you. You *DESERVE* more and better. Just tell her that you LOVE HER, but, you're going away for two days.

She won't accept anyone coming in to check on her -- right?? I know she wouldn't want anyone but you staying with her.

This is so aggravating, Nikko. I don't want you to give up a chance at the life that you SHOULD BE HAVING -- because again someone who doesn't have their head screwed on straight wants to drag you down with them.

Your Mom can have a nice life with you as long as she allows you to spend some time with your PEERS. If she can't accept that -- TOTALLY ACCEPT THAT -- then you need to make the changes that you talked about before.

Put the animals in the pet hotel so she can't "accidentally" let them all out the front door. Kiss her. Tell her you love her. And go on your trip. Anything less than that FOR YOU is just gonna make you hate her. You don't want that.

BIG HUGS (and love).

Barb