Reading these posts has been very helpful to me! I have been going through the same issue;i still love who I am with but I am definitely not at the same level of intimacy where we were before.(aka none now) i know dealing with this is hard for him too so I hope he will find this thread beneficial.
I hope that you find the answers you are looking for c-giver, and you definitely have great resources here in this forum. Keep us posted!