my advice is talk to them. Let them know that while you are excited by what they are bringing home, sometimes mommy (explain a tiny bit about MS) needs time before she can help you, because she is making sure we have dinner to eat. Clean clothes to get to school the next day, and name your other chores. Ask them if they want to help with any. Folding clothes is of great value! who cares if they are perfect?! Washing dishes in an important part of participating in the house.

My children had their own colors. If the blue basket was left out, I knew Matthew had not picked up or put his clothes away. Was the blue toothbrush dry? that means he didnt brush. Blue cup in the living room means it was him that didnt put it in the sink. yes now and again someone grabbed the green cup when it wasnt theirs to drink from, and left it behind, but it was rare. Organize, organize. organize! Have them help each other. this will increase their bond, and decrease rivalry.

Good luck. Kids are hard, even when you can do full speed.