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Originally Posted by burton975
But I can’t because this person is the mom of my 6 year old goddaughter and a 4 year old nephew that I care for a lot. I’m feeling great again, but I have the mentality that I’ll never see her again, but I know that’s unattainable. So what’s a person to do?
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Hi,
Get the book
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie.
There are similar books and probably web forums. Many of us can learn about boundaries. Also, we can learn how to avoid getting caught up with one of these people in the future.
Therapy can help enourmsously with this stuff.
Here are my tough words:
Save yourself.
Get out of the sinking life boat now.
The children will manage much better than you think they will. It's not your job in life to safe them anyway. Move to a place where you can be happy with yourself.
Mari