i am new to this but i can say my husband has always been the breadwinner i have always done everything for him the kids the house and animals, now he and the children have to take responsibility for everything. they include me like with shopping, they push the cart i point or say what we need and they get it. i have read a few things that helped. one is the spoon theory on butyoudontlooksick google it maybe you should find find it? i know it is facebook as well. also i found some very useful info here that helps. its hard because no one completely understands. i recently updated my facebook status with i hate crps, my father wrote back something about me being a whimp cuz my mother just had knee replacement surgry and i had to man up....grrr i hate what people say sometimes!