This brings to mind something my boss (a man) used to tell me all the time when I was wrestling with problems within my department. He'd say "take the emotion out of it" whenever I'd get upset about something. It sounded unfriendly and cold but it helped me make decisions based on facts not feelings.

Life is different. We need others to support us and make us feel valued. Your friend seems very unemotional and disconnected. And he may be. I don't know what his past was like or what formed these characteristics within him.

I know I could never say something like that to anyone. I wonder if he's ever been in a vulnerable situation?