I think our men really do care a lot about this. The thing is, that they are wired differently - they want to race in, be the hero and fix it all - and when they can't they don't know what to do. The pressure has been on them all of their lives to 'be strong' to 'protect' to 'not show feelings' and to make it all ok.

Now they are faced with something that is affecting the person they love most in the world, they can't fix it - they can't even ease it most of the time, and they aren't programmed to talk about it like we are.

As women, we discuss, we ruminate, we go over all possible scenarios, we don't solve it, but we feel so much better for having talked, cried and shared.

See what I mean? I think MS is a cr@p situation and we all deal with it (patients, partners, men and women) differently.

I am sorry that you are feeling so bad though. I hope that things will be better for you soon, just remember, that this is a great place where we do understand what is going on.