I couldn't agree more with your pro and con beliefs.

There are so many I could relate to aspergers, I wouldn't know where to begin.

I'd say this would apply to both my childhood and adulthood...

I've heard many new wives or mothers saying how 'lonely' they feel. I haven't felt lonely for a second since my husband and I got together. When you're used to weeks and months and years of isolation (other than when you manage to force yourself on a person reluctant to acknowledge you, but just being 'nice') seeing someone every single day, wow! That's a heck of a lot of company. He drives a truck, I'm sort of an out of sight out of mind gal. Not so much with the kids though, cause you know, they're more fragile and whatnot. And that's another thing, kids - talk about NOT having lonliness. I realize a kid isn't the same as an adult for companionship, but it's a hell of a step up from a fish!

So, my pro and con, was lonliness....I had a lot more of it due to no family or friends, and there were many years (high school years) it was more mental torture than a prisoner would even get. But, now that I have companionship, I am fulfilled far easier than perhaps someone that was popular in high school for whom two screaming kids and an ocd husband might be a bad thing.

Actually, I remember complaining to myself and here about TOO much companionship, not enough alone time quite a bit. Then, one thanksgiving maybe 4 years ago, I had to drive out to get something. While on the road, I saw all these people in their cars, also driving alone...I presume to relatives houses. I felt SICK. It hit me, that the reason I so crave more time alone, is cause I don't have it and have the security of knowing I was driving back to my family. I don't really think I've wanted to be alone a lot like I did, since. I think, "how would you like to have it like it was, single, no kids, fish and birds". Nope.

Ok, so my pro and con answer is lonliness.