This is a very good list of do's and don't's.

This may have been implied but the music comment could be supplemented by "music that is common to you." This means your mind does not need to try to understand or anticipate what is coming. The familiarity allows the mind to relax and just "let the music flow through."

The egg shaped item to grip may be enhanced by it being very soft. I use a plush stuffed animal to hold lightly. It gives my hand a soothing sensation. Tactile comfort by using soft clothes can be helpful. No itchy tags or such helps the body to feel comfortable and cozy.

The anticipation anxiety/worry is definitely counter to recovery. It takes a lot of discipline to stop worry thoughts. Many put such high demands on themselves, especially moms, that this is almost carved into their minds.

The need to perform for others needs to be reconsidered in light of our limits. Another tough issue to resolve.

Good post.