I know I still guard mine in certain situations because there's more than just the RSD causing massive pain. But I have spent a lot of time when sitting or waiting or whatever...it's become a habit...using my other hand to gently rub and flex my fingers. It hurts, but I just try to at least pay attention to my pain levels. It's taken a long time for me to a place where I'm not quite as protective of it, but I still have to be at some points. If you can hold your hand/arm against your stomach while watching TV or talking to people, and just start by getting used to having your opposite hand on the RSD area. Start slow cuz it's not gonna happen over night. I still work with mine and it's been over 5 1/2 years. As you get used to touching it yourself, you will eventually be able to relax a little. Just know it takes time.