been there jacquie. my oldest. not the one i pm'ed you about. she has a good head on her shoulders.
i now have a 5 yr old grandson..know in these parts as grandmonkey.
i have had him most of his life. for his first 8 months...and off an on until he was almost 3 when she dropped him off. we haven't seen her in 2 1/2 yrs. he has no clue who she is when he sees a picture of her.
i can't tell you why they do the dumb things they do. i can say they get the mindset that it will never happen to them.
this will be a long 10 days. but we are here for you. venting and having the support is very important.
i'm not sure about all the side effects on a fetus with her meds. we can help you look that up.