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Joselita · 04-20-2007, 10:51 AM

Oh, Mark.

I am so sorry to hear all of this. I think that it is awful that it takes SSD so long to come through.

It really seems that they try to force folks into losing everything, and getting so down trodden that it IS an accomplishment just to get up in the mornings. I know...I have been there and done that, too.

As far as the Foodstamp Office...well...let me tell you that ******'s behavior is par for the course.

Those people in there are supposed to be helpful, but instead the vast majority of them look down their noses at the people that they are supposidly there trying to help. And, talk about discrimination! If you go in there looking half way decent, they act like you are lying about everything and treat you that much worse. I know, because I have been there and done that too...more times then I like to count and think about.

Some tips about dealing with them are; make sure to bring ALL of your documentation when you go. If you had to set up an appointment to talk to that person, then they should have told you the things that they needed/wanted you to bring. Here, you have to have an appointment before you talk to anyone, I think for that very reason. If you DID NOT have an appointment then they should have a time for you to come back with whatever documentation/proof that they need from you. If they DON'T have, or get, you set up for some type of appointment and your request for help is denied, then GO BACK and try again.

Whenever you go back there though, be sure to bring something from your attorney saying that you have filed for SSD and have been trying to get it for so long. You might bring something from one of your docs saying that in his opinion you ARE disabled and can't work. Bring those things along with whatever other proof/documentation that they want. At least this ....person....gave you a "head's up" (although in not such a nice way), as to what you will need to bring next time you go to that office.

One thing that she said that is making me go "hmmmmmm?" is the "it isn't her place to prove anything". Well....it IS her place (or someone's in there) to verify your information.

That means making some phone calls. I am thinking that making a phone call to your attorney and/or doc would fall under that category? She just sounds like one of the worse case workers in the aid offices. I know that it is hard, and it can be very trying to have to deal with these people, but please try to not let it get to you too badly. If someone is very rude or REALLY ****** you off, you can always ask to talk to a supervisor (I have done that...more than a couple of times). Sometimes that helps to straighten up who ever is acting the butt. Sometimes not. But what you have to try to do is realize that this is just how lots of folks are treated when they go and ask for help.....and that getting really angry about it will only wind up costing you more then those people are worth. It really isn't worth it to get so aggravated, upset, mad, sad, whatever and have any of your health problems get into a flare. NO ONE is worth that. You know?

Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that I understand some of what you are going through. I know that I have not been around much for a while (although I kinda have...just doing a lot of lurking), but I am trying to get back in the swing of things around here again. So, if you need a shoulder, just give a yell!

I am here, ready and waiting. I agree with Curious, and think that you should try to at least put a one liner up every now and then (once a week?), to let us know that you are still out there. And, to NOT have you get in the habit of isolating yourself.....because that is a DEPRESSION thing, and you don't need that. So, let us help you get pulled back up, and dusted off, and ready to fight the good fight some more.

Ok?

I think that maybe it is time for another Trip...dont you?

Our last one just kinda got abandoned. Maybe we can try again, and see if we get any of the other "Oldies" out of the wood work to come and play with us? I mean, who can resist you in your grass skirt and cocoanut bra??

ROFL! Seriously though...I do wanna play, and such a trip just wouldn't be right without you on board.

Ok...I am letting this get way too long again (I am trying to be better about that....although it is very hard for me, and doesn't seem to be working so well at the moment. ROFL), so I am going to wind this up here. Please don't sit there all alone. TALK to us, because we are here, and we love you and care about you! Ok?

Lots of Love and

Jose