I used to be a box kicker. I could shred a box quickly. I even shredded a plastic over styrofoam ice chest.

I have learned to avoid getting to this level. I still have shouting outbursts but they are rare.

I have to be disciplined to walk away. It is the only thing that works.

Letting it happen by box kicking does not help. It leaves me with a new set of stressors.

To me, it appears to be a brain overload of "I don't know how to respond to this situation." What helps is learning that I DO NOT need to respond.

The hind sight of the outburst shows that it did not make any positive difference. Becoming convinced that it does not help is the start to a change in behavior because the mental urge to do something is so strong.

I hope you all can find the strength to improve in this area. It is tough.

My best to you.