Sonarlily,

Welcome to NeuroTalk. I am sorry to hear of your husband's struggles.

There are some resources for you to check out. The TBI Survival Guide at www.tbiguide.com will be a big help. You can watch the YouTube video series at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x9Xso...ature=youtu.be It may give you some perspective.

If you can approach his Commander, my suggestion would be this.

Ask the Commander to observe your hubby's behavior at work. Suggest that at home, it is magnified many fold. His commander can then suggest that hubby needs some help to learn to deal with the stresses of his job after his TBI. If his Commander puts it in a work place reference, your husband may be more receptive. Tell him to not mention your contact at all. His commander probably has already noticed some issues.

The military has lots of experience with TBI. There should be systems in place to help him. The fact that his injury was from private time activities should not prevent him from getting access to help.

Which branch is he in? What rank?

My daughter is a SSgt in medical administration in the full time Army Guard. She may have some tips for you.

btw, Burn his skate board. He does not have the tolerance for another head injury available.

I hope this helps.

My best to you both.