Thanks for your post. As a single military member (USMC) with TBI, my first instinct it to suggest backing off. I basically turned into a hermit. I can't imagine having a husband or kids while I go through this. I know that is not conducive to a marriage. I pushed everyone away, all my colleagues I met in my 15 year career in the Corps, Facebook deleted, relatives who wouldn't understand. It's just me and my dog who doesn't make suggestions or tell me how to do things but who loves me and kisses me all the time and comforts me just as I am.

The military medical has been all over me, they are wonderful. I go to the TBI clinic, neuropsych, social workers, occupational therapists and speech therapists and neuro feedback. They have been so helpful. grants from the military sent my dog to training to become my service dog.

When my family tells me "it will get better" I buck at them because maybe it will, maybe it won't. I am vvvveeeerrrryyyy slowly getting better. This was my fifth concussion, non combat related too.

I got a handful of the Mayo Clinic's "Brain Book" and passed it out to those that are close to me which they say has been real helpful.

The thing aside from the book that has really helped me was a group with other TBI's and my relationships with my doctors. The care is there. I go to Ft. Belvoir Community Hospital in VA, not sure where you are.

I can't imagine being in your shoes, I am sure it is tough. Far be it from me to suggest anything marital but I can tell you that if you push in the right direction, the medical care is there.

My TBI merely scratched the surface for a whole bunch of other things going on, not saying the same is true in your husbands case but perhaps? TBI in itself can be mind boggling and I am taking tiny baby steps. Those who serve have alot of pride and for me it was ego that was hard initially but once I understood that yes there really is something wrong with me, could the process of healing begin.

It isn't rainbows and sunshine but I do hope my post helps.

Hilary