It's almost been a year since my accident and my wife thinks the only thing keeping me from getting better is depression. I just got the book Brainlash and it's been useful to me. My wife reads the section on depression and think she's an expert on the topic. I tell her to read the other parts as PCS is very complex. She refuses and is confident this is the only think holding me back from recovery. Argument ensues and yelling back and forth. Not fun.

I was starting to make some big improvements with no headaches with amitryptaline and reduction of brain fog. I told her a couple months ago I was feeling good and could start to look for a job. I then relapsed a few weeks ago when I developed horrible allergies and tried to get off the amitrypaline. Headaches were terrible and brain fog came back so I've defintely been down the past few weeks.

I got back on my meds and headaches have gotten botter but brain fog is still really bad. Most days I do little but rest, watch TV for a few hours, and go for walks. She makes comments on how this isn't even a life I'm living and no wonder I'm depressed. She's also tired of supporting me and gives me an ultimatum either get a job or it's done.

I'm willing to try anything to get better but I really don't think depression is a major cause. When my symptoms get better, I'm not depressed in the sligthest. I do have bad days where I get pretty sick of feeling lousy, but I grind through the day with optimism that I'm slowly getting better daily. It's not easy having to rely on my wife financially(which I'm thankful for) and also not being as sharp cognitiviely/physically as I used to be.

So we agree I'll go to counseling but I think a typical pyschologist will just label this depression and won't understand what I'm experiencing. My insurance doesn't cover neuropyschologist so it just seems like this will be a huge waste of time and false hope that this is the magic cure. Any advice?