Thankyou Rae,
I have been trawling the web to get some sort of answer, and also to avoid constant need to try and communicate something that he's obviously unable to hear.
I have only one hope that somehow he hears me from wherever inside him he has gone.
I feel dreadful, but, the more I read the more hopeless I become about the whole thing.
I don't think suicide is where he is at, it appears from when I saw him the other day he is managing to function, and looks relatively well, more than I can say for me.
I want to be able to stop pushing at him, take that pressure away at least, but also selfishly I fear if I do that I am somehow telling him that I have accepted the situation.
I have quite an intense job, and although they have been understanding so far, I need to stop crying, and manage to complete a shift..
Anyway, enough rambling, I truly thank anyone for their thoughts or insight.