Judy....
I am sorry for ALL you are going through. I just started to needing to self cath. I am wondering if you have ever heard of a flip flow valve? It attaches to the end of the catheter tube, about 10 inches, you can roll it up into your underwear....and every two hours, or whatever works for you, you just go to the bathroom, open the valve over the toilet and empty your bladder. You can attach to a regular bag for overnight.

This is so not a fun disease!!

http://www.westernbiomedical.com.au/...lip-flo-valves