KathyM... you make sense for me... thanks for that!
Well, actually, you ALL

have made sense for me.
I've experimented with removing the things I enjoy - my chorus, my friends, my sons, my personal upkeep, entertaining, cleaning. They are my sanity- my life line... and I'm struggling to hold on to all of them...
and instead, I hold on to an abusive job.
duh
I can't hold onto this abusive job any longer... internally, its a mess.
and so am I.
It it is to be, its up to me.
stay tuned ... xo Addy