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Originally Posted by Brue
Yeah, I get what you're saying, and you have to start caring about your spouse, or else he'll leave you. Fact of life. When I say 'old lady', I'm talking about my mother - I came down to Florida to help her because she was killing herself trying to take care of my stepdad, who has dementia. We finally got him into a home for people with the same problem (this week). I do care about my mother, that's why I'm down here, but as in any family, there are issues.
I'm alcoholic, and my real old man is about as low down the totem pole as you can get. Nothing but ***** and threats from the guy from the time I was old enough to look up. Dear old moms let that go on for 20 years until I got old enough to step in. I'm not blaming my father for me being an alcoholic, but all you have to do is watch Intervention, and every last one of them was abused. Not in the mood to hear her browbeat me when I'm in more pain than usual. It's got nothing to do with caring about others, because I do. Maybe I'll have to move out. Whatever. It'll change for her, but it ain't gonna change for me. I've accepted it. I'm just scared sh*tless that I'll starve because I can't make a living at some point.
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Just thought it would give you something to think about....the compression socks. For my PN pain, they just caused additional pain.
The rest just is who I am.....The difficulty accepting this painful life and watching, not only my husband; but my grown children saddened. When I tried to pick up on their feelings; as well as husband (Have no fear of him leaving; if he did, it would be his choice; but while I can, would like to bring some joy into his life, as well as others in my family)
You are fortunate to have a mother who cares. She might be hoping you'll try to help yourself and unfortunately is not handling it to your liking. Does not sound like you were dealt the best of cards either. I myself, had one of my childen with a substance abuse problem. She would tell you she really had a good life growing up.This is not always because a child is abused. But....she picked herself up....it took a couple of rehabs and is now working with those with substance abuse problems. She is enjoying as well a close spiritual relationship with God.
I well know the pain does not help us deal with what is going on around us; but for me, it does help me if I can bring a little happiness to others. Don't get me wrong....I still have days that I am not the nicest person to be around.
Just not every day.
Take care and hope things improve for you.
(Gerry)