Tam, so so glad you've been able to post - have wondered how you were making out. Awesome that you (finally) found good in-home care.
I too keep thinking that I'm eventually heading for a nursing home. It's so depressing to consider. But you are absolutely right - you could be setting an example/legacy for your girls. The thought that keeps me from the "out" option: there could be others in the nursing home who need encouragement, a friendly ear, or a good belly-laugh. I can help. As long as there is some small thing I CAN do, I have a purpose here. Damn the pain. I may lie in bed and cry for 5 days straight, but if I have 1 day that I can be helpful... then worth the pain.
I wish I could send you $5K. Would an attorney work for you with the promise of payment upon reciept of SSD/WC?
Much love and prayers for relief,
Anne