Thank you new2net. Believe me if my husband had been like that we would have had seperate addresses a long time ago. I am proud that 4 40 years we have weathered a lot of storms, I had a wonderful job that I loved and sustained me, he had a good job which he hated but he stuck with it. My oldest daughter says that she totally knows all of her Dad's bad traits but it has only made her sttronger and has helped her in what she expects in a good man. She loves the fact that even with all her faults through her high school years that her Dad never gave up on her. Our other daughter just rebelled all the more. They have never felt restriced. i haven't either. There are many times I know when to speak my opinion and when not to. there are times we can sit and talk. I know I am not going to change some of his opinions. But at least when he finishes being mad, and it doesn't take that long for him to get over it that he sits and thinks. And he makes some changes accordingly. I must say he is a project in progress, one little stap at a time. Sometimes it's two steps forward and one step back. Right now he is accepting that I want to contuinue tring to be as independent as I can. I have remonded him that from 1999 to Dec of 2010 I had been very independent and asked him if the reason he wants to take me everywhere, do everything with me is because he is bored. He totally admits that. So he let me drive to the little town about 30 minutes from us where my beautician is. He still asked but accepted it when I said no. I thought about ccalling him when I got there but if I did that I would only be allowing him to control.. I am also going out this weekend to buy a new ohone, I will have a seperate thread about that. It was hard but he said OK. My daughter will be going but We are going to make an afternoon over it. He also told me that he didn't care what I pay for it. He said if I even needed to go to $300 that I could. I told him that I had already decided that I was going to ned to do that on my own. To that he just laughed.